The fixed-mindset leaders were, in the end, full of bitterness, but the growth-minded leaders were full of gratitude. They looked up with gratitude to their workers who had made their amazing journey possible. They called them the real heroes. - Mindset by Carol S. Dweck -
For the past six years, I’ve worked with leaders who have employed various leadership styles. You can call them supervisors, managers, heads of departments, or even chief executives.
The good ones changed my perspective. They pushed me out of my comfort zone so I could grow. They challenged me not just to get things done, but to create real value—and aim for perfection, as if it actually exists in real life.
Three things they all had in common:
They were deeply focused on their goals.
They created a clear destination for everyone to move toward together (and made sure we helped build the road to get there).
They led by example, while also teaching the importance of accepting failure—though not too often, of course.
What set them apart from each other were their attitudes, personalities, charisma, and habits.
My takeaway? Finding a good role model is essential. The right leader will not only shape your work style but also influence your soft skills. Even if you develop your own leadership style, it helps to have someone to look up to.
So, seek out a leader who positively impacts your life, whether by making you happy or even miserable (because then you’ll know the difference). The right leader provides you with feedback, challenges you to rebuild, and helps you grow into a better version of yourself, while still accepting you for who you are.
I’m forever grateful for the journey I’ve had with them.