A September Note
Usually I wrote down my thoughts on my birthday but this year I am writing this kinda bit late. Still okay.
So, another year has passed while being a 30-ish probably is still the most captivating thing. Forever grateful that this year all my beloved one are healthy on this pandemic time however i worry much, but it doesn’t help me through my days. All I can do is doing a mindfulness stuff everyday. Trying to!
Enough pep talks, HOW ARE YOU RIFIE? WHAT CHANGED?
Well, short version is I am in a good mood and stupendous. Lot of things happened in past year and I am trying to understand what it taught me. No, seriously. I’ve been in really joyful moment and in a really dark, dark version of myself. Great isn’t? It’s like a dark Bulbasour (Bulbasour is a Pokemon).
Long version? I have 3 major stories that changed my way of thinking.
1. Keep your goals In front of you and feel the outcome.
Funny that you read this from the most procrastinator person. Hence I am sharing this with you.
I get distracted much, I have dozens of projects that’s being abandoned and the worse part is I am easily bored. On this pandemic time, this things has to stop. I get it, my time is limited.
So I took a step back, thinking and writing down on what I want to achieve and cut it into smaller tasks. I set a goals that doesn’t make me stop and I read that everyday as a reminder, because no one will do it for you. I also deleted lots of projects and stick into just enough that I can handle. New shiny things makes me forget things that I need to accomplished. I feel really bad.
So I set my outcomes. I begin with the end in mind. I imagine how my great feeling after I completed a tasks or projects. The awesomeness and that good mood. A feeling that you need to feel. Just projected that every morning and you feel you can conquer everything that day~! Distraction is a dust!
2. Re-learn and find a good habit.
I learned this the hard way, I’ve been into the sense of I want to do anything that long so I learned stuff that what I only want to know but forget how to do a proper way to learn. This is essential. Start from fundamental first and go further. A good habit to start new thing!
3. The way you communicate to people about what you want to happen, it matter.
It’s not a problem about how the person will reacted, it’s about human relationship.
Be ready to communicate kindly about what you want, more of that you involve someone to be on your plan, you are talking to a human that has feeling and emotion that we really don’t know how deep it is. I know sometimes you need to say it in a direct way cause that’s is the correct way to say it, probably you need to have add one more parameter. Probably more.
So please, bear in mind for talking more decent way. I am so tired listening other’s people being hurt, feeling deeply wounded just because someone talk in a very hurtful way. It also hurt me as a friend that listening to the story!
Life is short, what a shocker. Be kind because our strong words can be on their deep, deep heart. Just don’t break it like you don’t want them to break yours.
Alright. One more thing… Stick to your core values because if you get lost and let go something, you can get back to that. A win-win. Life is too short to feel like crap!
Have a great day~ September is always a good month to do a step back.